Monday, December 17, 2012

Grandma's Passing



Chris's Grandma passed away Sunday in her sleep.  We'll miss her and wish she could have met our little one.  But Chris is grateful for all the time they had together and that he was able to visit her a few weeks ago.   They had a very close relationship that I hope our little girl can have with her grandparents.  I know she's in a better place. 

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Financing the Adoption- Grants and Loans

Like most families, coming up with $30K isn't easy to do.  It's frustrating when I compare the financial process to other big expenses- our home mortgage is only 3%, our car loan 1.9%.  What options are there for prospective adoptive parents?
There are many foundations that give loans and grants to adoptive families.  If you are an Evangelical Christian, you are in luck.  None of these grants or loans will cover your full adoption expense and many applications are very time consuming.  I am also wary, because I have been unable to find out how many grants have been awarded by most of these foundations. 

Here's the list as we've found it:

Grants & Loans for International Adoptions:

Help Us Adopt 



By far the most inclusive organization, no family requirements- Christian, agnostic, Jew, singles, gays, domestic, international, healthy child, child with identified disability.  This organization grants money to individuals, families, couples seeking to adopt.   Due to their inclusive nature, they receive millions of dollars worth of requests each year, unfortunely they can only fund a small portion of the requests. 

Life Song For Orphans





Loans and grants for prospective adoptive families.  They have one interesting grant: Both Hands- prospective families help a widow and in turn receive funding for their adoption.   They have interest-free loans and matching grants.   The prospective family must be a 2 parent, Christian couple and preference is given to older or special needs children.

A Child Waits Foundation






Loans and grants for prospective adoptive families.  Grants of up to $5,000 to families demonstrating financial need, special needs of child taken into consideration.  Loans of up to $10,000 at 5% interest, $20 application fee for loans (though not for grants).  No religious or marital requirements for potential parents.

Katelyn's Fund









Grants of up to $3,000 for married, Christian, heterosexual prospective parents.  Parents must write a declaration of their faith and demonstrate financial need to qualify for this grant.

Brittany's Hope Foundation











Families must be working with an affiliated agency.  Preference given to families adopting older and special needs children.  Brittany's Hope provides matching grants with an average award of around $5,000.

Hand in Hand Christian Adoption Ministry
 
 Matching grants provided to Christian families seeking to adopt.


 Show Hope

 There are two options from Show Hope for Christian couples or individuals seeking to adopt.  The first option is an adoption grant averaging $4,000.  The second option is to sell Show Hope t-shirts as a fundraiser which can be done whether or not you receive a grant. 

Lydia Fund



For married, Biblical Christian, heterosexual couples adopting internationally only.  Biblical Christian is defined by the Lydia fund as: "acknowledged their sin and put their trust in Jesus Christ alone for eternal salvation, apart from their works and have in their lives the fruit of the spirit of re-birth."

ABBA Fund


Married, Christian, heterosexual families only.  There are adoption grants and interest free loans.  This is one lengthy application.  Be prepared to give your Christian testimony and how you plan on explaining to your children Creation, the Fall and Redemption. 

Parenthood for Me



Grants for adoptions or fertility treatments.  No religious or marriage requirements of parents/ individuals.  Must demonstrate financial need.

America's Christian Credit Union




Loans up to $50K at 8.65%APR for credit union members.

His Kids Too!


This program is for US families adopting internationally.  Not quite a grant or a loan, more of a fundraising venue.  Families and friends make tax deductible donations to His Kids Too! designated for your adoption. 

ARC of Hope

arc of hope - adoption and foster care support

 This program is for married couples with preference for those adopting a child with an identified special need.  Similar to His Kids Too!, family and friends make tax deductible donations earmarked for your adoption.

Domestic United States Adoptions: 

Micah Fund

 For families adopting children of minority backgrounds in the United States.

Lifetime Adoption Foundation

 
 For families adopting domestically through the Lifetime Foundation.

North American Council on Adoptable Children (NACAC)
 
List of subsidies provided by states on children in foster care.

Grants & Loans that Have Application Fees:

Gift of Adoption
 
$20 application fee.  Average award $3,000 for families or individuals adopting domestically or internationally.

God's Grace Adoption Ministry
 
 $10 application fee for 2 parent, Christian families.

Sea of Faces



Grants for heterosexual, married, Christian families.  $15 application fee.  Grants awarded between $1,000 and $3,000.

National Adoption Foundation

Grants and loans (up to $25 at 6.59% APR) for families and individuals.  $10 application fee.

Pathways for Little Feet





0% interest for adoption loans.  $15 application fee.

Perpetual Change Adoption Promise


 Grants and fundraising assistance for families or individuals seeking to adopt.  $20 application fee.

Golden Dawn Adoption Assistance


 Adoption assistance for Mormon families.  $20 application fee.

Resources 4 Adoption
 
This isn't a grant, but a database of grants and other resources.  $50 subscription fee.

Grants Not Working as of December 2012:

These are grants we have seen come up on many searches and recommendations that are currently not providing funding.

Helping Kids Cope
Their website isn't working.  An e-mail sent to them bounced back as undeliverable.

Home For Good
 No longer offering adoption grants.

TMG Foundation
No longer provides matching grants.

The Boatner Family Foundation
No longer offering grants.

Fore Family Foundation
No longer offering grants.

Promise The Children
$15 processing fee.  No longer offering grants.

Affording Adoption Foundation
$25 application fee for couples or individuals.  Currently unavailable, check back in 2013.

M. Night Shyamalan Foundation
A foundation begun by the Hollywood director to benefit orphans in India.  The foundation is still active in its orphan and underprivileged children's assistance, however they are no longer offering adoption grants to families. 



























Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Name Day

Boldog Nevnapot, pumpkin!
Today's our little one's name day- 12/12!
Hungarian name days are celebrated much like birthdays, you share treats with family, friends, co-workers depending on your age.  Children will be given small gifts and sweets and will share sweets with their friends.  In Hungary, birthdays are celebrated with just the family and name days are celebrated with everyone.
So, pumpkin:

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Print Your Own Board Book

The language barrier is a great concern for us- one we hadn't planned on.  We will struggle to communicate with her in a language so unlike any we've ever learned.  My greatest concern is that they are not preparing her for the big changes about to happen.  And, even when I'm there, I'll have no idea what they are telling her.

My sister showed me this excellent site:

What better way to introduce your new toddler to her new family and home than a board book!  At Pint Size Productions you can choose your images and create your own board books.  And use Google translate so her caretakers can read it to her. 
Our book goes something like this (I'm using her middle name to protect her privacy):
Christine's Book - Christine könyve
This is my home - Ez az én otthonom (or for better translations, use only one word: home - lakóhely or otthon)

bedroom - hálószoba

playroom - játszószoba

playground - játszótér 

my cats - én macskák (well, there's just one)
You may also include grandparents, school, church and other important places.  
She's actually getting two- my sister had made one "My Family" and we made "Christine's Story."  

This is something any kid would treasure- biological or adopted- a real book all about them and their family.

For Bulgarian adoptions, you have two visits, you could bring this along and leave it with her on the first trip.  For Hungary, there is just one long trip, so we are sending it on ahead of us.  I hope she gets it by Christmas ;-) 

Sunday, December 2, 2012

An Unexpected Trip

Yesterday afternoon we got the call that Chris's grandma isn't doing well.  I was afraid this would happen, but I was concerned it would happen while we were overseas and couldn't come home.  He was able to get a ticket and head up there later that evening.  Not a short trip, she lives in Anchorage.  Please keep her in your prayers. 

Saturday, December 1, 2012

And the Winner Is...

Congratulations April Miranda, you've won our iPad raffle!
We have been overwhelmed with support from family, friends, coworkers and complete strangers!  We did hit the 800 ticket mark, today.  Thanks so much to everyone who bought tickets.  Especially Andy and Jeff.  And to our Mom's and Virginia who sold so, so many tickets to people who don't even know Chris and I. 

So, April, check your mailbox- we're sending it out on Monday!