I am trying to stay positive, so this is what I learned:
The child has been placed on hold for another family.
1. Healthier children under 2 available on the wait list go fast. Very fast.
2. Find a reliable international adoption specialist who reviews medical files before you ever need them.
3. Don't be afraid to call the doctor's office 10x in one day. They will not call you back. Not ever.
4. Fewer families are willing to accept boys than girls.
5. A child on the wait list is registered with a foundation, they choose who they share the information with.
6. Before your dossier is registered with the MOJ, you can adopt through any foundation. Once you are registered, you can only adopt with the foundation you are registered with. This is not the same as your placing agency.
7. We need to be prepared for the child to come home. The child could be here as soon as late 2012, or as late as 2017 (really).
The child's file we had seen looked to be a good match for us. Everything seemed to be falling in place. We contacted several different international adoption doctors to review the case, we finally found one we could get on the phone. We were planning a iPad raffle, with support from our church. Our roommate announced last week that she's moving out by the end of the month. (Which is good because she's been staying in the baby's room). But then, less than a week after we learned about the child, another family had placed the child on hold. They had already adopted 2 children through that foundation and they asked us not to send our paperwork in. At least we know this child is going to a good place. We were upset when we found out, but I am trying to be more positive. We know a lot more now then we did a week ago. I was surprised to learn so many more families want girls, we are open to both.
I'm sorry for your loss...
ReplyDeleteI did not know some of the items on your list...and some of them I did-especially how quickly younger, healthier children go and how many people prefer girls over boys.
Praying you find your little one soon!
It's definitely very true that the youngest children from the MOJ list are generally requested very quickly, especially if their needs are correctable.
ReplyDeleteMore info: Any foundation is only allowed to hold the files of 20 children at one time. I was told so specifically by our NGO while in BLG. There's also a limit to how long they can have any child's file to attempt placement. If that time period has expired, the file must be returned to MOJ, so another foundation can have the file.
Most NGOs do not share a child's file just with one family or even just with one of their international partners. You should always assume that other parents are viewing the same file and may move quickly.